In the church Motherhood is very sacred! We know that the world has a very different few. As L.D.S women we have to find a balance. How do we become great mother while not "losing" our sense of self??
In my opinion I think that following your own dreams and goals as a daughter of God only make you a better mother. We teach our young Woman to value themselves , to work on their "individual worth",to get their education, improve " life" skills, so why do many forget to do all that once a baby comes?
A close friend and I discussed this topic today. As mothers we both feel that fulfilling yourself also fulfils the lives those around you. I remember when I wanted to go back to school and Aaron didn't really see the point. That is until my own mother pointed out that having an education would only benefit my children.
Our daughters have to be so strong in today's world. They need to not only be spiritually strong but have skills that can help them through out their life. We don't know what life is going to spring on us, divorce, death of a spouse, loss of income. We need to prepare for anything. I love that the leaders of the church are starting to really push this idea.
I've been going to school for over eight years now and i LOVE it! No i haven't received my degree yet, ( i take only one class a semester) but I know that I will and I KNOW that it has helped me keep my identity. I am not "just" the mother of my children. I am a woman who has many different qualities to her. It is one of my goals in life to never lose a sense of myself.
I know one day my kids will be gone and i don't want to be walking around an empty house wondering who the heck I am!
Yes, being a mother is the most important thing I will EVER do, but I'm glad it's not the ONLY thing I do!
Kristen
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so inspiring kristen:) your so awesome! i figured i better post a comment since nobody else has!! so i'm excited to be the 1st one!! xo xo xo
ReplyDeleteI feel very strongly about trying to remember who I am and who I was before marriage and children. I am blessed that I have those things but I don't want to become a "lost" number in the equation.
ReplyDeleteI am glad that I finished my degree, had a career all before I got married. I know that I can do many things and that I have lots of experience to share with my kids and husband. Although getting married and children shouldn't be postponed to do those things I am glad that I didn't get married earlier.
I also know that I could if I wanted to compete with my husband in the job world. I know that I am just as smart and educated as he is;)